When we go through heartbreak, we tend to forget about loving ourselves and each other. We will mentally create false thoughts in our minds that will tear us down. Our mind is a powerful tool and this mental sabotage prevents us from healing. In this episode, we discuss how to love ourselves after our hearts have been shattered and rediscovering our worth. What does it take to recover from heartbreak? How do we engage in voicing our experiences and opinions in healthy ways on the road to healing? How do we move forward from harmful messages from people around us while we are healing? How do we remain mindful of the fat that we cannot control anyone while trying to regain control of our lives?
As long as you hold onto unforgiveness, you hold onto suffering. There’s a quote, “When we don’t forgive, we hold the moment of injury forever in the present.” We don’t want to be stuck constantly reliving the hurt and pain. In this episode, we discuss the effects unforgiveness has on your body and health (anxiety, insomnia, etc…), the power we hold when we take responsibility, doing the work even if we never get closure from the other person, and giving people room to grow and evolve.
Why should you stay after your partner cheated? There is no right or wrong answer to this question. Many people may say that once a person cheats, they are leaving. Is it even possible to rebuild your relationship knowing your partner has betrayed you. In this podcast, we guide you with tips for making the decision that is best for you. These tips include but are not limited to processing your crisis instead of reacting out of emotion, understanding the catalyst, being in tune with love languages, and being mindful of your decisions every step of the way.
You’ve been forgiven but now what? We have to remember that forgiveness is a gift and trust is earned. Forgiving is the first step to healing and it takes time. Sometimes the greater the hurt, the greater the time it takes to forgive. In this episode, we discuss what trust looks like when you’re in the process of forgiving and after there is forgiveness. We unpack reaching a level of maturity and being realistic about the new dynamic after a crisis, expectations we put on each other, forgiving mistakes vs. intentional choices, and compassion.
Loving your partner can be difficult. We are not taught how to love in school. Loving unconditionally is learned in the real world over time. It’s confusing and there will be bumps in the road as you navigate what your loved ones react well to. Why is loving your partner so hard? Well, we all want to be loved differently. So how do we love differently? In this episode, we discuss how to understand the best ways to love your partner and different ways to think about the love languages that we may already be familiar with.