Relationships aren’t easy. We grow up thinking that we will find our prince, our knight in shining armor to protect us. The truth is, we need to learn how to be the best individuals that we can be on our own as well as the best half of a relationship that we can be in every type of relationship: family, friend, romantic, etc... It is our responsibility to be honest with ourselves and do the work to go beyond the surface of what we see mentally, emotionally, and physically in order to love as selflessly and boldly as possible. So let’s learn together how to find the love of your life and how to get married to the right person. Let’s figure out how to stop getting cheated on, how to keep a relationship fresh, and how to set expectations in your relationship. Let’s day by day discover how to realistically get our happily ever after.
Femme Naturelle provides an atmosphere where every woman is comfortable growing into their best self. Femme Naturelle is a no judgment blog where we discuss how to rise strong out of all types of obstacles that come with relationships. Through personal life experiences and discussions ranging from infidelity, trust, forgiveness, sex, heartbreak, self love, therapy and more, we offer words of empowerment as you strive to build and maintain all of the relationships in your life.
"Do not allow yourself to be distracted by the negatives of this world, pay attention, stay positive and live life." - Sherley Altidor
As I sit behind this computer screen thinking of different ways to start my post, my mind is racing. This is probably going to be the hardest post to write because it is not easy to talk about things that make you re-live the events that leave you battered and scarred deep inside.
But it is important that I do, because pain offers experience and insight and gives you a perspective that you didn’t think of earlier. And it is this ‘learning’ from life lessons that I want to share with you. After all, how can I claim to offer support to other women if I did not go through similar situation?
Why do we hurt the person we care about so much? Why not leave instead of hurting your partner? In this episode, Sherley and Kira discuss what often provokes infidelity, detaching, accountability, putting energy towards positive things, and choosing the right path. We help you understand the “why” behind cheating, how to avoid being the person who cheats, cheating styles, and working through being the person who has been cheated on. We walk through setting the tone for what we want, listening to our gut, and the importance of communication.
Every relationship is different and has its own sets of needs so there is no one size fits all answer here. I cannot tell you what is best for your relationship. It really comes down to the two of you sitting down to figure out the wisest path for your future. There are many factors to consider; finances, work, children, family, rented and/or owned property, healthcare, and so on. One great way to begin to figure out what’s best for you is couple’s therapy. If you’re able to afford therapy, consider talking through all of your decisions in therapy which will help you see what you are emotionally ready for as well. Because it’s not just a physical, tangible decision. This decision will affect you mentally and emotionally as well.
Body positivity and sex positivity are topics that are severely under-addressed when it comes to feminism. So much of the discussion is wrapped around equality and equity regarding the opposite sex in the workplace and in politics that so often, everything else that entails what it means to be a women gets forgotten. So often, the discussion about all of the incredible people that make up who we are as a collective of women, which is so diverse, gets lost. It’s time to celebrate what makes us women. We are not a monolith. Sex can be messy but it’s not a dirty thing to talk about. We all do it. So why not learn how to do it well, how to find out what works best for us, and how to best be safe while we explore our sexual identity?
Women all around the world seem to have been baffled by the apparently simple question about the frequency in which they should wash their hair. While some prefer washing their hair every day, there are people who like to do it every alternate day or even once or twice every week. Back in the 1950s it was a common practice among women to pay a weekly visit to the hairdresser to have their hair washed and styled. So it turns out that the final decision is conditioned by a variety of factors including individual preference and social acceptance. But how would you react if I told you that you can go without shampoo forever? Now, before the statement grosses you out completely, let me assure you that it is not as bad as it sounds. Rather, following are some of the most wonderful ways in which you can go ‘poo’ free and yet flaunt an envious crown!