Relationships aren’t easy. We grow up thinking that we will find our prince, our knight in shining armor to protect us. The truth is, we need to learn how to be the best individuals that we can be on our own as well as the best half of a relationship that we can be in every type of relationship: family, friend, romantic, etc... It is our responsibility to be honest with ourselves and do the work to go beyond the surface of what we see mentally, emotionally, and physically in order to love as selflessly and boldly as possible. So let’s learn together how to find the love of your life and how to get married to the right person. Let’s figure out how to stop getting cheated on, how to keep a relationship fresh, and how to set expectations in your relationship. Let’s day by day discover how to realistically get our happily ever after.
Femme Naturelle provides an atmosphere where every woman is comfortable growing into their best self. Femme Naturelle is a no judgment blog where we discuss how to rise strong out of all types of obstacles that come with relationships. Through personal life experiences and discussions ranging from infidelity, trust, forgiveness, sex, heartbreak, self love, therapy and more, we offer words of empowerment as you strive to build and maintain all of the relationships in your life.
"Do not allow yourself to be distracted by the negatives of this world, pay attention, stay positive and live life." - Sherley Altidor
We are imperfect people and we should acknowledge when we make a mistake. We should take ownership for the wrongs that we’ve done in our lives. We need to understand the role that we play in situations, the poor choices we make when we are not at our 100% best self. We have to be open to insight on shifting the energy that we make into something positive, accepting the consequences of our actions, and extending grace and compassion to ourselves. When we’ve done something wrong, it weighs on us and we may feel riddled with guilt and/or shame. Today, we are going to talk about doing all that we can to make things right to forgive ourselves and move on.
Every relationship is different and has its own sets of needs so there is no one size fits all answer here. I cannot tell you what is best for your relationship. It really comes down to the two of you sitting down to figure out the wisest path for your future. There are many factors to consider; finances, work, children, family, rented and/or owned property, healthcare, and so on. One great way to begin to figure out what’s best for you is couple’s therapy. If you’re able to afford therapy, consider talking through all of your decisions in therapy which will help you see what you are emotionally ready for as well. Because it’s not just a physical, tangible decision. This decision will affect you mentally and emotionally as well.
I have often casually asked people what they wanted from life. In most cases, I got the reply: happiness. Come to think about it, isn’t it sad that so many people want to be happy because you want something that is essentially missing from life. Maybe I am overthinking, maybe they were not thinking about their answer from that point, but the fact remains—all of us could do better with more happiness.