It’s so important to understand the differences between a compromise, a sacrifice, and completely losing yourself in someone else or making it easier to not have to do any of these things. Because making it easier to not have to put in the work is a factor in becoming the side chick. Relationships take work, whether monogamous or polyamorous. You are hurting yourself, the person who has accepted you as their side chick, the person that they are cheating on, and anyone else who is touched by the main relationship when you decide to stunt your growth and theirs. By refusing to do the work by yourself, you are cutting off the opportunity to grow with someone else.
Miscommunication is a big factor in infidelity. Being absentminded and/or physically absent for periods of time can also be a major factor. There are many factors. It all comes down to not being appreciated and loved in a way that we should be. It comes down to not respecting the space between the people in the relationship and all that encompasses that space. When that space is threatened, even by you yourself, it’s still yours. It’s still a comfort so it may not be something that you’re willing to leave.
Being in a relationship for over 20 years, I can say that I am close to an expert when it comes to date night. I will pat myself on the back for this one because it’s not easy keeping it fresh. You really have to be creative and step outside the box to continue the adventure of falling in love with each other all over again on a night out (or in). Routine dates can get boring after awhile, so I’m here to give you some ideas for switching it up. I myself have not tried all of these ideas and all of these suggestions may not work for every couple. My hope is that this list will help spark the connection between you and your partner as you find the right date night for you. Let’s jump on!
Most guys would say yes and if he doesn’t, he’s not human. Men love to look at pretty things. But the bottom line is that it’s subjective. Everyone has a different point of view and everyone has their own taste. So what one man likes in a woman, another man will not find those attributes to be high on their list of desires from a woman. Even still, the chemistry that brings us together aside from physical attraction includes behavior and attitude. It’s normal to aim for all three, but there are men out there who are satisfied with just the physical component. So when it comes down to it, physical attributes typically do matter for guys.
In the ideal world, a happily-ever-after is the natural outcome of a relationship. But unfortunately, we don’t live in an ideal world. In our world, things go wrong, bad things happen to good people, and the path to great relationship is often slippery. So, did you slip on that path and got caught up in an unwanted relationship? Maybe you never wanted to do that, but nevertheless it happened. And your partner fount out.