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What’s great about social media is that we can create our safe space. There is a lot that we can control. The same can be said for taking a step back and examining your presence in all of this. When taking a social media detoxification, you set the perimeters for how you’d like to go about taking that break. Nobody knows what you need during this break from social media more than you. Do you need your weekly activity to drop to zero on all platforms? Do you find that one or two platforms have been particular challenges to positively engage in? Do you find that it is more enjoyable and manageable to cruise through social media only in the mornings, during your lunch hour, the evenings, or only on the weekend? Nobody can tell you what kind of detox that you need to take because nobody knows your social media habits better than you. I will say that you will get what you put into this exercise. So you have to be honest with yourself.
Authenticity is hard to find (whether online or in real life) but once you find it, it makes being on these social media platforms worth it. Follows and Follow Backs may not be genuine. Some people are only interested in a certain number of followers or certain people who they deem as important to be following them. But without engaging with the people who actually are reaching out to engage with you and without being your authentic self and providing a space to talk about these things that kindred spirits want to talk about, there is no reason to follow and be a part of your online journey. When you find those people online that aren’t just about the celebrity of the internet and really care about what they’re talking about, whether or not you have all of the same ideals, if their discussion is respectful and is a magnet to you and your personality, follow and engage. That’s how we keep the right conversations in the forefront. These are the tweets and status updates worth sharing.
It’s so important to understand the differences between a compromise, a sacrifice, and completely losing yourself in someone else or making it easier to not have to do any of these things. Because making it easier to not have to put in the work is a factor in becoming the side chick. Relationships take work, whether monogamous or polyamorous. You are hurting yourself, the person who has accepted you as their side chick, the person that they are cheating on, and anyone else who is touched by the main relationship when you decide to stunt your growth and theirs. By refusing to do the work by yourself, you are cutting off the opportunity to grow with someone else.
Miscommunication is a big factor in infidelity. Being absentminded and/or physically absent for periods of time can also be a major factor. There are many factors. It all comes down to not being appreciated and loved in a way that we should be. It comes down to not respecting the space between the people in the relationship and all that encompasses that space. When that space is threatened, even by you yourself, it’s still yours. It’s still a comfort so it may not be something that you’re willing to leave.