As long as you hold onto unforgiveness, you hold onto suffering. There’s a quote, “When we don’t forgive, we hold the moment of injury forever in the present.” We don’t want to be stuck constantly reliving the hurt and pain. In this episode, we discuss the effects unforgiveness has on your body and health (anxiety, insomnia, etc…), the power we hold when we take responsibility, doing the work even if we never get closure from the other person, and giving people room to grow and evolve.
You’ve been forgiven but now what? We have to remember that forgiveness is a gift and trust is earned. Forgiving is the first step to healing and it takes time. Sometimes the greater the hurt, the greater the time it takes to forgive. In this episode, we discuss what trust looks like when you’re in the process of forgiving and after there is forgiveness. We unpack reaching a level of maturity and being realistic about the new dynamic after a crisis, expectations we put on each other, forgiving mistakes vs. intentional choices, and compassion.
We are imperfect people and we should acknowledge when we make a mistake. We should take ownership for the wrongs that we’ve done in our lives. We need to understand the role that we play in situations, the poor choices we make when we are not at our 100% best self. We have to be open to insight on shifting the energy that we make into something positive, accepting the consequences of our actions, and extending grace and compassion to ourselves. When we’ve done something wrong, it weighs on us and we may feel riddled with guilt and/or shame. Today, we are going to talk about doing all that we can to make things right to forgive ourselves and move on.
In this episode, we discuss how forgiveness is less for the other person and more for ourselves. Do we only forgive when people deserve it? Is an apology a requirement to forgive someone? What is “Sorry?” Forgiveness allows you to not carry the weight, the burden of anger, hurt and resentment. Forgiveness takes time and may include scars and heartbreak but it is key in a journey of healing. So with all of this said, can we really forgive and forget? What is the value of an apology? How do we expect to have wrongness recognized and acknowledged? How does intention, accountability and understanding play a part? Let’s find out…
Forgiveness is a major part of the healing process. It is defined as “a conscious deliberate decision to release feelings of hurt and resentment toward someone who has hurt you whether they deserve your forgiveness or not.” In this episode, Sherley and Kira discuss what it means to be a prisoner of self, choosing to release feelings of hurt and resentment in order to heal, expectations, and loving unconditionally.