Mr. Jay: Betrayal Trauma


Sherley is a Haitian-American flight attendant who served eight years in the US Army Reserve. Her journey with Femme Naturelle began in 2012 as a way to build a safe space, a community to uplift and empower women in relationships transitioning out of crisis. She resides in New Jersey with her husband and two children.

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This week on the Femme Parler Podcast we’re happy to welcome Mr. Jay, who brings us all the energy and a triumphant story of perseverance. Mr. Jay and author of the book, “I am loved right where I am.”  Mr. Jay takes us through his trials and triumphs as he navigates a life most would never even have to imagine, let alone rise up from. From sexual abuse, parental struggles, independence, and so much more.  Mr. Jay’s main focus is his ability to transform his own trauma experiences and lessons as guides to help decrease others’ suffering.  Mr. Jay uses his past experiences and lessons to teach others how to work on their relationship with themselves and how that is the foundation on which everything is built on.

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Mr. Jay is a Betrayal Trauma Practitioner and Intrapersonal Relationship Coach.  He holds a master’s degree in education, is ministry credentialed, a certified special education teacher, an author of a children’s book, “I Am Loved Right Where I Am, a veteran of the United States military, an Inspirational public speaker, adoptive parent and much more. 

But his childhood was anything but success.  After years of drugs, alcohol and years in special ed. Mr. Jay quit school in sixth grade ultimately being homeless falling victim to abuse after abuse. After the second gun to his temple Mr. Jay vowed to fix himself so he could help fix others.   

Determined, Mr. Jay put himself through school researching self-help books, therapy, psychology, and spirituality.  Mr. Jay learned, and stands by his motto, “The Relationship You Have With Yourself Sets the Tone for All Other Relationships Around You” and says, “Relationships can break you but even broken crayons can create beautiful masterpieces.” 

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Betrayal Trauma Practitioner &

Intrapersonal Relationship Coach

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