Self-preservation is about putting the oxygen mask on yourself first so that you’re able to help others with theirs. Self-preservation is about allowing yourself to be available to be the best version of yourself, the most selfless you can be. The opposite of selfishness. There is definitely a fine line when discussion self-preservation as the topic can quickly pivot to survival of the fittest. Some would go so far as to say that kill or be killed is in our nature. So when you are looking to find ways to self-preserve, check your intentions behind needing to step away or center yourself.
Battling my own personal demands within the last ten months while trying to also remain as strong as possible actually made me feel as though my life was upside down. While it may have looked like everything was fine from the outside, I felt like I was not in control of anything. Everything was falling apart. I don’t like being this vulnerable, for fear of not being seen as strong. But I cannot be of help to others if I do not speak from an authentic place.
Coming to terms with the fact that your spouse or partner has cheated on you is perhaps one of the worst feelings ever. But once you know what has happened, how do you react to it? And more importantly, do you shut out that person from your life completely or do you try to make things work again? That is a very tough decision to make because it reflects a lot on your own character, on how you deal with things, and what message you want to pass on to your kid, if you have one.