Why do we hurt the person we care about so much? Why not leave instead of hurting your partner? In this episode, Sherley and Kira discuss what often provokes infidelity, detaching, accountability, putting energy towards positive things, and choosing the right path. We help you understand the “why” behind cheating, how to avoid being the person who cheats, cheating styles, and working through being the person who has been cheated on. We walk through setting the tone for what we want, listening to our gut, and the importance of communication.
Miscommunication is a big factor in infidelity. Being absentminded and/or physically absent for periods of time can also be a major factor. There are many factors. It all comes down to not being appreciated and loved in a way that we should be. It comes down to not respecting the space between the people in the relationship and all that encompasses that space. When that space is threatened, even by you yourself, it’s still yours. It’s still a comfort so it may not be something that you’re willing to leave.
Heartbreaks suck. But not all aspects of life are in our control. What’s more ‘amusing’ is, the times when things go out of control are also the times when we need to take charge and control our emotions, our sanity, our life.
Have you been cheated on? Of course, it wasn’t something that you were expecting. None of us do. But shits happen. Now you have two options: call it quit and part your ways OR try to fix it and give it your best shot to make your relationship last. If you want to opt for route 2, here is our two cents:
Coming to terms with the fact that your spouse or partner has cheated on you is perhaps one of the worst feelings ever. But once you know what has happened, how do you react to it? And more importantly, do you shut out that person from your life completely or do you try to make things work again? That is a very tough decision to make because it reflects a lot on your own character, on how you deal with things, and what message you want to pass on to your kid, if you have one.
I appreciated every happy moment that we had. I did not know how long it was going to last. I did not know when I would get into one of my moods. Just when you think everything was falling into place. We briefly separated. The short time he was gone I was lucid enough to know that, I wanted to make it work. I love this man, even through this time of turmoil. I wanted to save my relationship.