Remember that famous book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus? Even if you haven’t read the book, you get the drift, right? It seems that men and women live in two different planets which means that there naturally exists a world of differences between them. However, when we talk about coexisting in a relationship, we got to make things work. And that means understanding each other, celebrating the similarities, and appreciating the differences.
Do you ever feel that after a few years down the line, your relationship with your partner isn’t that exciting anymore?
Unfortunately, it is very common. But isn’t that natural? I mean, even a roller coaster ride wouldn’t feel the same if you rode it every day, right? However, if you ask me, I think that what’s more important in a long-term solid relationship, more than all the excitement and thrills, is the fact that you love each other’s company, even if it means just watching the TV together. A sudden gush of the adrenaline is not equal to love, which I think, is deeper and has the power to withstand many difficult situations. However, being in love and making a relationship count need solid work. Here are a few things that can help:
Coming to terms with the fact that your spouse or partner has cheated on you is perhaps one of the worst feelings ever. But once you know what has happened, how do you react to it? And more importantly, do you shut out that person from your life completely or do you try to make things work again? That is a very tough decision to make because it reflects a lot on your own character, on how you deal with things, and what message you want to pass on to your kid, if you have one.
Love, at times, is an all-engulfing passion and often, one of the first things it consumes is our identity. Although it is not something that we consciously do, sometimes we invest so much into a relationship that we forget the most important thing—being our natural self.
I appreciated every happy moment that we had. I did not know how long it was going to last. I did not know when I would get into one of my moods. Just when you think everything was falling into place. We briefly separated. The short time he was gone I was lucid enough to know that, I wanted to make it work. I love this man, even through this time of turmoil. I wanted to save my relationship.