In the ideal world, a happily-ever-after is the natural outcome of a relationship. But unfortunately, we don’t live in an ideal world. In our world, things go wrong, bad things happen to good people, and the path to great relationship is often slippery. So, did you slip on that path and got caught up in an unwanted relationship? Maybe you never wanted to do that, but nevertheless it happened. And your partner fount out.
Most of us love the concept of being in love. Of being with that special someone who would make our life so much better and beautiful. However, it is not always that we find Mr. or Miss Right.
Being single can be one of the best things in the world if you know how to enjoy it. Often there is a lot of pressure on us from friends or family to be with someone. But being with anyone just for the sake of it does more harm than good.
Instead, embrace your singlehood.
Do you know what’s the best thing about being single?
Heartbreaks suck. But not all aspects of life are in our control. What’s more ‘amusing’ is, the times when things go out of control are also the times when we need to take charge and control our emotions, our sanity, our life.
Have you been cheated on? Of course, it wasn’t something that you were expecting. None of us do. But shits happen. Now you have two options: call it quit and part your ways OR try to fix it and give it your best shot to make your relationship last. If you want to opt for route 2, here is our two cents:
Remember that famous book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus? Even if you haven’t read the book, you get the drift, right? It seems that men and women live in two different planets which means that there naturally exists a world of differences between them. However, when we talk about coexisting in a relationship, we got to make things work. And that means understanding each other, celebrating the similarities, and appreciating the differences.
Do you ever feel that after a few years down the line, your relationship with your partner isn’t that exciting anymore?
Unfortunately, it is very common. But isn’t that natural? I mean, even a roller coaster ride wouldn’t feel the same if you rode it every day, right? However, if you ask me, I think that what’s more important in a long-term solid relationship, more than all the excitement and thrills, is the fact that you love each other’s company, even if it means just watching the TV together. A sudden gush of the adrenaline is not equal to love, which I think, is deeper and has the power to withstand many difficult situations. However, being in love and making a relationship count need solid work. Here are a few things that can help:
Coming to terms with the fact that your spouse or partner has cheated on you is perhaps one of the worst feelings ever. But once you know what has happened, how do you react to it? And more importantly, do you shut out that person from your life completely or do you try to make things work again? That is a very tough decision to make because it reflects a lot on your own character, on how you deal with things, and what message you want to pass on to your kid, if you have one.
Love, at times, is an all-engulfing passion and often, one of the first things it consumes is our identity. Although it is not something that we consciously do, sometimes we invest so much into a relationship that we forget the most important thing—being our natural self.