Author Archives: Sherley Altidor

About Sherley Altidor

My name is Sherley Altidor. I live in New Jersey with my husband and two kids. However, I wasn’t born in this country. My place of birth is Haiti, which naturally makes Creole my first language. When I was 17, I joined the US Army Reserve and did eight years there. While in the Reserve, I got my Real Estate license.....this is the beginning of my journey. Welcome to Femme Naturelle!

Why Self-Preservation is Important
By: | Date: August 12, 2019 | Filed Under: Lifestyle | Tagged Under:

Self-preservation is about putting the oxygen mask on yourself first so that you’re able to help others with theirs. Self-preservation is about allowing yourself to be available to be the best version of yourself, the most selfless you can be. The opposite of selfishness. There is definitely a fine line when discussion self-preservation as the topic can quickly pivot to survival of the fittest. Some would go so far as to say that kill or be killed is in our nature. So when you are looking to find ways to self-preserve, check your intentions behind needing to step away or center yourself.

Battling my own personal demands within the last ten months while trying to also remain as strong as possible actually made me feel as though my life was upside down. While it may have looked like everything was fine from the outside, I felt like I was not in control of anything. Everything was falling apart. I don’t like being this vulnerable, for fear of not being seen as strong. But I cannot be of help to others if I do not speak from an authentic place.